Wedding Stationery


If you’ve been searching for advice on when to send out your wedding save the dates, you may have found lots of contradictory information out there and that you are still none the wiser!?

A lot of information on the internet is based on outdated traditions that don’t necessarily make sense in 2019! People live busy lives these days and friends and family often live in different parts of the country or world, so to make sure all of your loved ones are available on your wedding day you need to let them know the date well in advance.

But as all weddings are different (and thank goodness they are!) here are 3 different scenarios that will affect when and how you send your save the dates out.

SCENARIO 1 – The ‘standard’ 12-18 month engagement

If your wedding is in the same country that you and most of your guests live in and you’re planning your wedding 1 – 1.5 years in advance, send your save the dates out…

8-12 months before 


  • If you are having a midweek wedding, be aware that the majority of people will need to take a day or more off work so factor that into your timescale – the earlier notice the better!
  • If your wedding date is a popular date e.g on a bank holiday, near Christmas, New years eve etc. send them out soon after you have booked your venue – just incase people start booking their holidays!
  • Don’t worry if you haven’t yet decided on a style/theme for your wedding, your save the dates don’t need to match your other stationery! Keep things simples and just pick a design that reflects the overall feel of your wedding e.g casual or formal

SCENARIO 2 – The destination wedding

If you’re having a destination wedding which the majority of your guests will need to travel by plane to, send your save the dates out…

10-14 months before


  • Don’t be too eager and send them out too far in advance (as a guest it’s hard to get excited about a wedding happening in 2+ years time!)
  • People often think save the dates need to be super simple, but it could be useful to mention where you are getting married so people can look into flight prices and nearby accommodation. You don’t necessarily need to mention the venue by name at this stage, but a little note about whether the venue has accommodation on site, or letting your guests know the name of the nearest town could be helpful for guests who are on a budget.

SCENARIO 3 – The ‘shorter than average’ engagement

If you are getting married less than 9 months after getting engaged, send your save the dates out…



  • It might be best to send out a save the date and invitation in one, or send a digital save the date to your guests to save some time and ensure they don’t book anything on the same day.